Are you, your church staff or your church stuck in a conflict that is harming you and others?

Are you losing hope for healing and peace?

You don’t need to despair or to fix things on your own.

There are people trained to help lead you out of the conflict into a peaceful and God-glorifying resolution.

Pastor Paul is a Christian Reconciler with Ambassadors of Reconciliation. 

Contact him and he will provide a free consultation.

Subsequent services can be provided free in many cases.

Pastor Paul has been trained in the following roles by Ambassadors of Reconciliation.

Personal Peacemaking

Leading others by applying personal peacemaking in one’s own life

Cultivating a lifestyle of reconciliation begins with each of us. God led the way by reconciling us to himself through Christ while we were yet his enemies (Romans 5:10). Christ humbled himself to take on our sins, making peace between God and us, while he himself was sinless (2 Corinthians 5:21; 1 Peter 2:24). All true peacemaking is based on what God has done for us through Christ. Thus, compelled by Christ’s love and empowered by the Holy Spirit, we are taught in God’s Word to live as peacemakers in our own lives (2 Corinthians 5:14; Romans 8:9; Matthew 9:5; Romans 12:18).

Teaching Biblical Reconciliation

Equipping Christians in biblical peacemaking for lifestyles of reconciliation

Reconcilers—including parents, teachers, pastors, and other leaders— teach biblical peacemaking one-on-one and in groups through devotions, in Bible studies, during preaching, and in other settings (Proverbs 22:6; Matthew 28:20; 1 Timothy 4:11). Throughout the year, reconcilers lead Bible studies on various topics for applying peacemaking to different aspects of daily life. They make recommendations for creating a culture of reconciliation in the family, church, school, and other organizations, and make brief presentations on peacemaking to various groups.

Coaching

Guiding individuals to apply biblical approaches in specific conflicts

When someone experiences conflict at home, the workplace, neighborhood, extended family, or even in church, he may want some help in understanding how to respond to the conflict in a God-pleasing manner. Such disputes may range from small personal squabbles to major matters involving legal issues. Reconcilers coach individuals by listening to concerns, helping assess the opportunities, and providing guidance through God’s Word (Colossians 3:14-17; 2 Timothy 2:24-26; Galatians 6:1-2). They not only coach people to resolve conflict, but also to reconcile relationships. At times, they may also refer individuals to other professionals for specialized help (such as attorneys or counselors). As coaches, they do not solve people’s conflicts for them. Instead, they serve as guides to encourage people to “go and be reconciled” (Matthew 5:24).

Mediating

Assisting two or more people in conflict to reconcile relationships and resolve their material issues

When people are unable to resolve conflict on their own, Jesus teaches to “bring one or two others along” to assist as witnesses (Matthew 18:15-16). Reconcilers serve as witnesses to Christ when they mediate between parties. Using a process to facilitate godly discussion, they coach all parties to apply God’s Word to the conflict. As mediators, reconcilers do not make decisions for the parties but guide them in reaching biblically faithful solutions. They help negotiate material issues, and they encourage people to reconcile through confession and forgiveness. Throughout the process, they proclaim Christ and his ministry of reconciliation.

Adjudicating Disputes 

Deciding substantive matters through a just and fair hearing

For simple cases, church reconcilers may adjudicate disputes. In more complex situations, disagreements may be submitted to professionally- trained Christian conciliators for arbitration. Parties submit disputes to the arbitrator and agree to be bound by his/her decision on the matter (1 Corinthians 6:1-8). Unlike mediation, arbitrators act as judges, making decisions on behalf of the parties. When serving as an arbitrator, a reconciler cannot make decisions on relationship issues such as confession, forgiveness, or love. He or she is limited to making decisions only on material issues. Instead of lawsuits, which can damage relationships and present a poor Christian witness, arbitration by fellow believers provides a private, God-honoring alternative for Christians seeking just decisions.

(Official training through AoR is pending for this. I have been trained through our previous denomination in adjudication and currently serve in adjudication leadership.)

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I have served as Lead Pastor of King of Grace Church in Haverhill, Massachusetts since 2002. I have been happily married to Peggy for almost 40 years. We have four adult children and three grandchildren. I worked as a research engineer before being called to church planting and pastoring. I have a PhD in Materials Science from Johns Hopkins University. I am a 2001 graduate of the Sovereign Grace Pastors College. I served as the Chairman of the Board for Sovereign Grace Churches and as a Board Member. Our church is currently affiliated with Trinity Fellowship Churches and the Baptists Churches of New England. I currently serve in conciliation, mediation, adjudication and leadership roles in Trinity Fellowship Churches. I also serve as the Director of The Gospel Coalition New England. I have experience in reconciling parties, mentoring pastors and coaching churches. I would be glad to help you work through conflicts and challenging issues that are facing you. I am very familiar with all sorts of predicaments. I believe, with God’s Spirit and word, we can navigate a way toward his peace.